Q: Your book teaches about how to manifest our desires. I’ve been eagerly working on manifesting mine, but nothing seems to be happening. What am I doing wrong?
Thank you for asking this question, Becky. I am happy to help you move forward on this topic of manifesting your heart’s desire.
First of all, let me ask you this question, Are you too attached to your desires?
Let me explain.
One of my favourite movies is called, Under the Tuscan Sun, starring Diane Lane.
Some may dismiss it as a “chick flick” as it falls under the romantic comedy genre. However, I for one believe that there are some great lessons to be learned from the movie.
So whatever the genre, I would still watch it.
I am sharing one of the lessons from the movie with you in this article to help you manifest what you want in your life.
The movie, Under The Tuscan Sun is based on the memoir of Frances Mayes. At the beginning of the movie, Frances’ seemingly perfect life and marriage takes an unexpected turn when her marriage suddenly falls apart and quickly ends in divorce after she discovers her husband’s infidelity.
Devastated, her world turns upside down. She can’t write and get on with her life. A gift from a close friend to travel to Tuscany, Italy saves her.
While on the tour she falls in love with an old Italian villa called Bramasole, and impulsively buys it on the “spot”!
She starts a new live and adventure in Tuscany. Initially she has buyer’s remorse because of her impulsive decision.
She hires a contractor and crew to remodel the old villa.
Amidst all of this, Frances becomes friends with an eccentric British woman named, Katherine who lives in the moment and nurtures her sense of childlike enthusiasm.
She approaches her world in the same way with childlike joy, playfulness and laughter.
When Frances struggles to make sense of her life and is at the point of a breakdown from being so unhappy with not having love and peace in her life, Katherine offers her a simple, yet profound advice.
She tells Frances this story:
“When I was a little girl, I used to spend hours looking for lady bugs.
Finally I would just give up and fall asleep on the grass.
When I woke up, they were crawling all over me.”
Frances responds by saying, “So?” to which Katherine says, “So go work on your house and forget about it!”
Frances takes this to heart and puts all her effort and energy on enjoying the restoration of her beautiful villa.
And that’s when things began to change. Frances finally experienced a sense of peace.
In the end Frances attracts all the people and events that she was dreaming of all along, including a new love in her life.
She finally manifested her heart’s desire because she released her attachment.
The lesson here is…whenever we become too attached to our desires, we are actually keeping them away from us.
The more we try and chase it, the more it eludes us.
Why? Because we stifle the energy on that one specific situation or desire, and there is no room for anything else to come in.
Many times we may also be trying to control the outcome and how we want the desire to be fulfilled, thereby not leaving any room for other possibilities and synchronicities to occur.
I have personally experienced this very thing . Whenever I am working on a big project and I am expecting big results, I often set it aside and go do something fun so that I can create the space to manifest it into my life
And it works!
In truth, it is only when you finally release your desire to the Universe and let go, then allow your desires to come into your life.
In fact, one of the prerequisite to manifesting your desire is to detach yourself, release and let go once you have intended it, visualized it and taken all the necessary actions.
Then, surrender it to the Universe. The results will be even better than what you imagined.
If you’d like to learn more strategies, tips and the core process of manifesting your heart’s desires, a great resource is my book Money, Manifestation & Miracles.
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Meriflor Toneatto is an award-winning leadership and Positive Psychology Coach, Strategist and Entrepreneur. She has been featured in Yahoo Finance, Washington Post, Forbes, Los Angeles Times and more.
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